How Human Givens Works
The aim of Human Givens therapy is to relieve emotional distress and to help you move on as swiftly as possible. I am trained in a highly effective technique to deal quickly with past trauma – in many cases this only takes one or two sessions.
Human Givens therapy is always positive. It aims to help you identify any unmet emotional needs and to rediscover and develop your own resources in order to get those needs met. I will teach you how to relax so that you can think more clearly, find solutions, and develop skills and strategies, now, for difficulties which may be recent or have their roots in your past. Human Givens therapy is designed to help you change unhelpful patterns of behaviour with the minimum of fuss.
Human Givens are what we are born with, the templates for our species, Nature’s endowment to each of us. These givens come in two kinds:
- The physical and emotional needs that evolution has programmed into us, which seeks fulfilment through our interaction with the environment
- The resources (or tools) nature has provided us with to help us get those needs met
Our essential human needs are:
- Security — feeling safe in an environment which allows you to develop fully
- Attention (to give and receive it) — a form of nutrition
- Sense of autonomy and control — having the option to make responsible choices
- Being emotionally connected to others – friendship, intimacy — knowing that at least one other person accepts you totally for who you are, “warts ‘n’ all”
- Feeling part of a wider community by having connections beyond your family and close friends
- Privacy — opportunity to reflect and consolidate experience
- Sense of status within social groupings
- Sense of competence and achievement
- Meaning and purpose — which come from being stretched in what we do and think
Our resources as endowed by nature:
- Complex long term memory, which enables us to add to our innate knowledge and to learn
- The ability to build rapport, empathise and connect with others
- Imagination, which enables us to focus our attention away from our emotions and so solve problems that get our needs met
- A conscious, rational mind that can question, analyse and plan
- The ability to ‘know’ — that is, understand the world intuitively (through metaphorical pattern matching)
- An observing self — that part of us that can step back and be aware of itself as a unique centre of awareness
- A dreaming brain that preserves the integrity of our emotional inheritance by metaphorically defusing expectations every night that were not acted out the previous day.